You say tomato...

So, I was listening to a radio interview about infertility that Tertia did, and the very first thing to discuss was the definition of infertility. Everyone agreed that it was the inability to get pregnant after one year of trying. So my question to you, blogland, is what does that make me?

I have to admit that I see us as infertile. I know, we can get pregnant. I've seen two lines on the pregnancy test, and more than once, too. But what does that really mean if I can't hold the pregnancy even long enough to see anything on ultrasound? All of my pregnancies have been chemical, which is how my specialist defines a pregnancy that never progresses far enough for even transvaginal ultrasound to detect it (see: dildo cam). And like I said, we have a specialist running tests on us, and putting us on fertility drugs. What is the difference if I can pop an HPT?

I know that no hard feelings were meant. And I'm not criticizing, in fact I think it's great that infertility is getting some needed attention from the media. But it did sting a bit. My husband and I are members of RESOLVE because we are unable to have a baby. And I know there are plenty of infertiles who would love to see those two lines, and I hope all of them do. But there is nothing fun about miscarriage, and I hope they don't have to learn about that, either.